How to Help Your Child Through a Tragedy

by Steve Coplan | Feb 22, 2018 | Uncategorized

By Natalie Clark

How to help your child through a tragedy

Tracey Bratton, LCSW

School shootings have become a major worry for children and youth across the nation. It’s important to keep the lines of communication open with your child to help him/her feel safe and secure when tragedy strikes. They look to you for this felt safety already, and it becomes even more important at these uncertain times. 

Here are a few tips for staying connected with your child through traumatic events:

• Open, honest, age-appropriate communication
  • Talk at key times –during commuting, dinner or at bedtime
  • Ask them how they are dealing with the news –don’t wait on them to talk about it
  • When they’re communicating their feelings. thoughts, concerns, etc., actively listen without interrupting
  • Validate and normalize their feelings
  • If they have misinformation, gently, but honestly correct them
  • Console them with a hug and let them know they are safe
• Ensure your child feels safe
  • Make sure home is a safe haven and a comfort to your child
• Watch your child for changes in mood and/or behaviors
  • Fear, anxiety, grief, increased stress
  • Changes in appetite and/or sleep, nightmares
  • Difficulty concentrating on school/homework
• Ensure your child is not over-exposing himself/herself with news reports, internet searches, etc. about the traumatic event
• Model self-care for your child
  • To take care of your child, you will need to take good care of yourself
  • Keep routine schedules
  • Make time for exercise and fun family activities

These are just a few tips for helping your child through a traumatic event. If you or your child feel stuck, reach out to your support system and talk to a close friend, relative, or pastor. If you’re overwhelmed and your daily routine is disrupted, it may be a good idea to consult with a mental health professional.